Indigenous Healing

As the field of counseling and psychology recognizes harm it has done to marginalized communities, it is important to take responsibility for ways we have not been culturally competent and carried a western lens when sitting with people of color. It is imperative we take the time to learn with humility and know that we are not the experts. There are two books that were recommended to me at Massy Books in Vancouver, Canada (female and Indigenous owned independent bookstore!).

I’d like to share excerpts that inform ways I want to begin viewing my own life journey of growth and how I hope it will also translate to clients. I hope you may also expand your own views for yourself. We have much to learn from each other.

Indigenous Healing Psychology: Honoring the Wisdom of the First Peoples :

Mary Lee’s work as a traditional counselor exemplifies how healing as opposed to curing, is more characteristic of Indigenous approaches to therapy. While curing focuses more on fixing what is wrong with people (e.g. some diagnosed illness), typically through the removal of identifiable symptoms, healing is a broader, more dynamic, more open-ended, and respectful process. Healing can be seen as a movement toward meaning, balance, connectedness, and wholeness. Symptoms may not be removed-though few would oppose their removal-but healing can still occur. Meaning, for example, can be created in life still carrying the symptoms of an illness. Rather than fixing someone, healing seeks to support and enhance ongoing life adaptations and transformation. Though healing and curing are not mutually exclusive and can influence each other in practice, curing is more frequently a focus in mainstream approaches.

Indigenous Healing: Exploring Traditional Paths:

Within aboriginal traditions, there is something else at work, something that flows from the recognition that no one can ever claim to be meeting their responsibilities perfectly or to be perfectly healhty. The belief is that we can always think, say, do and be better than we are now. In that sense, we are all engaged in healing, which is to say that we are all on the same road, together, trying to move closer to Creator’s spirit in everything that we do.

As I said earlier, some of us start that journey with many blessings, and others begin while facing great threat and suffering immense injury. But we all undertake essentially the same journey, and it lasts throughout our lives.

[Healing} is seen not simply as a response to injury but as a life goal to be sought….healing stands primarily for moving-toward, not just recovery from. It involves always trying to manifest that which is within us but is so difficult to reveal.

I’m grateful for voices different from my own that help me see things I cannot see without them. The Indigenous way is compassionate, full of grace, sees human experiences as nothing to be ashamed of or to overcome but part of. It allows us to be dynamic people and not defined by pain. At the heart of it, we are to be valued and treasured and healing is not isolated nor does it occur in a vacuum. We need one another.

Beginnings

That which haunts us will always find a way out.

The wound will not heal unless given witness.

The shadow that follows us is the way in.

Rumi

To those of you who have courageously faced the darkness and believed light would come, to those of you who chose to cling to hope that healing is possible, to those of you who confronted fears, you deserve all the worthiness you find. To those wondering and scared and wandering, there awaits you a place of freedom that I hope you’ll gift yourself.

Saying Goodbye

This year is one that held tremendous loss for me. Noah and I said goodbye to one another this past summer. I am eternally grateful for the 16 years I was given with him. While it has been difficult, I am comforted by what he selflessly and generously offered me on a daily basis. And he extended his gifts of care and compassion to my clients. I trust he is enjoying his well deserved retirement across Rainbow Bridge. I am indebted to him for the years of companionship I was blessed with.

Carefarms

Bailey, resident at Central Texas Pig Rescue

I have been volunteering with the Central Texas Pig Rescue since this summer and have fallen madly in love with the porcine residents. Bailey, pictured in this post, is one of the sweetest creatures I’ve had the honor of meeting. There is something incredibly humble in the ways animals offer a place to be present with them and shift our perspectives.

I recently heard an interview on NPR about a Carefarm in Arizona. I had not heard about the concept before but was drawn to its mission. This sanctuary allows people to process their grief and trauma in the presence of rescued animals.

As a trauma therapist, grief is a significant part of the healing process. Grief over what happened and did not happen. grief for the present and past impact of the trauma. Layers of grief.

I know that as clinicians we must be open to new ways people can experience healing and I imagine loving, caring for and serving animals who have faced their own traumas might be part of that.

Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape.
— C.S. Lewis

“Animals are such agreeable friends—they ask no questions; they pass no criticisms.”

-George Eliot

Name It to Tame It

One of my favorite children’s books to gift is The Color Monster by Anna Llenas. I have often shared the premise of the book with my adults clients as well. If a healthy understanding of our emotional world was not modeled to us, our emotions can often feel confusing, scary and even threatening. Many of us may even have a negative connotation of certain emotions (sadness, disappointment, anger) and view them as unacceptable based on the messages we received when experiencing these emotions. We may also hold other emotions in higher regard such as happiness. It is not wrong to want to feel happy and even prefer to be in a happy state. However, it is damaging to our well being to shame other emotions that may feel more painful to us.

Like the color monster, we need to sort through our emotions so we can feel more calm on the instead. The illustration above gives us a visual picture to sort through and understand our internal experience. Drs. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson discuss this in their book The Whole Brain Child. One of the tools they offer is called “Name it to Tame it”. Naming our emotions allows us to feel more regulated because we have context for what is happening. This self-awareness allows us to feel more in control and connected to ourselves.

We need not bury, minimize or dismiss our emotions even if it feels uncomfortable to us. We can give them room and space and see what they want to tell us…

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

by Rumi

Taken from SELECTED POEMS by Rumi, Translated by Coleman Barks (Penguin Classics, 2004).

All In The Family, Pt 2

Introducing the newest (official) member of Abound & Flourish, Noah Dang. Noah completed his Canine Good Citizen test several months ago. While he has been coming into the office as an unofficial therapy dog, we are so thankful and proud of him for taking the steps to become officially recognized as a therapy dog.

Noah likes to sit with clients and make sure they are feeling safe. He has been an excellent comforting resource.